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Day…I dunno
I actually have no idea what day it is in my dating diary and I can’t be bothered to calculate. From here on I’ll be posting on danidatingdiaries.tumblr.com
Things seem to have died down rather unexpectedly with Arab boy. I’m not one for extensive talks… The communication breakdown or ‘disintegration’ seems to have begun when I left for Cape Town. Perhaps I wasn’t as communicative as I couldn’t be in the first week as the pressure was on to get everything done in an unbelievably condensed period. Then some unusual stuff started happening which seemed to coincide with a friend of his resurfacing in his life. Nothing in life that’s meant to be ought to be forced.
I’m in a happy space, even though life is definitely less than perfect right now. I had an awesome weekend. Attended this fantastic Yeezy inspired fashion show. I’ll post a pic. Night y'all. x
Dating Diaries: Day 17
I’m beginning to wonder if this wouldn’t be more aptly named, Dani’s “overthinking” dating diary… So after our little tiff yesterday/day before yesterday I’ve been thinking about the various levels of complexity entailed by our budding relationship… I’m going to take a life the counsellor/psychologist’s book and come up with a list. Hopefully it’ll help me make better sense of the ‘bigger picture’. 1. He’s an Arab, I’m African. & he’s alluded to the fact that his extended family would be less than approving 2. I’m 26, he’s 23… Besides it going against the traditional tide which is but a triviality there’s the matter of how far along I am in school in comparison. But then I think how often to 2 Dr’s marry one another or even date or Professors… Blah blah blah. But it does mean we might be at different stages… I sometimes pictured some well to do suitor waltzing in and giving my heart’s desire. But who am I to rule they out. God only knows what the future holds. 3. We haven’t rely decided what we’re doing exactly. He’s not big on definitions anyway… & in this case I’m not either. There are so many uncertainties so many “if’s”…
& yet that might focus things… But why always in a rush, Dani. Why not take your time. I guess I’m a planner. As an academic and sociologist I’m all about processes, end-goals and timelines. Interestingly though here’s are some counterintuitive realisations I’ve made along the way. About point 1., Arab boy doesn’t fetishize me… I often think there’s a thin line between people’s so-called dating “preferences” and fetishism. Well I gotta say I’m still blown away that he likes me, not in spite of me being black but perhaps even more so because I am. & he makes me feel like every feature, ever dark hue, every curl is exactly the way it’s supposed to be.
I once had an ex who hated how smart I was 🙄 As is above being attractive to him I dared to have the 'audacity’ to be intelligent too. The same idiot also used to tell me how big my nose was. I have a picture to explain the take home of this and I’ll post it shortly. But never dilute your for anyone as my best friend says, be exactly as you are and some one out there will find that flavour exactly perfect!
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